True Friendship: An Afternoon In
We often think we have to make extravagant plans to have fun with our friends. When in reality, we should know someone is not our friend if they always require such things. True friends don't need some well thought out plan every time you hang out. True friends can just "be" with one another.
So many friendships are superficially based on a facade of happiness or competition. I urge you all to seek out friends who require very little material things from you and instead, require all of your heart. Today, people are so afraid to be vulnerable and real. This has lead to epic proportions of people lacking intimate friendships. I am an extremely guarded person so I understand the hesitation. I let very few people into my feelings and deepest thoughts. I am never one to tell you to be reckless with your heart. On the contrary, I advocate for people to form strong bonds with a core group of people. I have many people whom I call friends, but my inner circle consists of people I talk to on a daily basis and trust with my life.
This weekend, I had a wonderful "afternoon in" with my friend, Lauren. We made a cheese/charcuterie board, sipped champagne, and enjoyed a kale salad. Our day was filled with nonstop laughter, venting about life, and more laughter. One of the more comical things was the fact we said this would be an inexpensive afternoon and the budget soon spiraled out of control (as is a common theme in my life). We had no set plans and didn't leave the apartment complex. It may sound boring, but for true friends... it was perfect.
My hope is for all of you to experience friendships that allow you to be yourself and come as you are. If you're reading this thinking: I don't have any friendships like that. I say, “WHY?” We all have so much to offer in a friendship. Don't settle for phony relationships with people looking only to gain something from you. You are worthy of someone loving you just for your company.
So, reassess your life. Who are you hanging out with? Are they friends or "friends?"