Veggie Pizza Date Night In: Relationships are Successful When You're Best Friends
I'm not going to act like I'm some sort of relationship expert. I can only share my own personal experiences and say what has worked for me. That's what you get from my blog: a clear picture of me "keeping it real" from my perspective.
People are constantly complimenting my relationship with my boyfriend and they always assume we don't fight (that's literally HILARIOUS. I'm actually laughing). We are by no means a perfect couple, but let me share why I think we work so well together: we are best friends. We are truly and genuinely best friends. We have countless inside jokes that should have been "killed" long ago, we send each other memes all day long, and we are constantly consulting with one another. We do what best friends do.
So, how do you become best friends with your significant other? You develop the ability to enjoy each other's company, just doing nothing. I always joke with people about how boring we are. To us, it's not boring. We love going out, but we can have just as much fun staying in and cracking each other up. We are almost always laughing. Fun knows no bounds with us, we can enjoy anything together. I know that's why we mesh so well together.
I really don't think I can understate the importance of quality time in a relationship. You don't always have to do something fancy, but you do have to take the time to enjoy and appreciate each other's company.
Zack and I loveee Italian food. We love scoping out new Italian restaurants to try and boy, do we love garlic. You can pretty much ask us to get gourmet pizza anytime and our answer will be a resounding "YES!" We also love wine (Cheers!). We love trying new wines and even watching various documentaries on the topic. My first birthday in this relationship, he took me to wine country in Paso Robles and our first anniversary, he got a pasta maker and made me a pasta dinner from scratch. I think that says it all! We love our Italian food and wine. That's our thing. Sometimes we eat out, sometimes we stay in and cook Italian food from scratch. Either way, wine and Italian are uniquely "our thing."
So, my advice to all the couples out there (new and old) is to make sure you guys have a "thing." It doesn't matter what you and your partner choose, just make sure it's something where the two of you can engage and just spend quality time together. Lest we not forget, all time is not created equal. Sitting together as you stare at your phones or just sleeping in the same bed, is not quality time. Quality time requires fully being in the moment together. Quality time is not something that allows for shortcuts. Find your thing. It doesn't have to be fancy, but it has to be yours.
I dedicate this post to my best friend. I'm so lucky to have you and call you mine. No more froggies to kiss, I found my prince. You make me laugh until I cry on a regular basis and put up with all my very particular preferences and quirks. You have a quiet strength about you that makes you wise beyond your years and your tranquil nature balances out my neuroticism. All I can say is: Thank you, best friend.
I would love to hear from you, guys! Do you and your significant other have a special activity or interest unique to your relationship?