The Power of You
I’ve always found it terribly unfortunate that so many people allow others to define their self-worth. If you think about it, it is kind of insane to defer to others when it comes to determining how much value we have. Maybe you didn’t get into your dream school and that's always haunted you. Perhaps, you’ve been overlooked for a promotion time and time again and you’re at your wit’s end. The examples can be endless, but the sentiment remains: other people dictating what you are or are not worthy of.
Today, I want to talk to you guys about building self-esteem and tapping into the immense power that lies within.
So, first things first… you MUST erase this notion from your head: random people define who I am. Don’t even continue reading this post until you’ve cleansed your mental palate of that hideous way of thinking. I will put it to you like this, would you ask some dusty person, who takes no pride in their appearance, to be your image consultant? NOPE. No way. Why? Because they are not experts and they have no authority on the topic. Same goes for allowing others to determine your value. They are NOT the experts on the topic of “you.” Only you know yourself best and only you and God know the full scope of the talents and traits he has blessed you with.
I hate when people talk about “big picture” topics like building self-esteem and don’t give concrete advice on how to actually do that. So, here are some ways to tap into the power of you and have healthy self-esteem.
5 Ways to Build Self Esteem
Dress to Impress and always be well groomed.
Taking pride in yourself and dressing well is not just some superficial act. It shows you care enough about yourself to invest in your appearance. Now, when I say invest, I do not necessarily mean monetarily. Investing can be simply investing the effort it takes to do your hair or pick out a nice outfit. Furthermore, so many studies have shown that you actually act differently when you dress nicely. When you look good, you feel good. Dress well and command respect as you walk into any room. Dress for the job you want, not the job you have. You want to be a boss, dress like a CEO. See it, want it, get it.
2. Hold your head high and always have exquisite posture.
Bad posture is often correlated with low self-esteem. Now, this is not always necessarily true, but that is the perception. Hold your head high, shoulders back, and be confident in who you are. Whenever people do an impersonation of me, they always straighten their posture. It’s hilarious, but such an honor to be universally known as someone with amazing posture. Like I said, walk into every room like you are supposed to be there!
3. From the janitor to the CEO, always treat everyone with respect.
Only people with low self-esteem look down on others. Those are just the facts, guys. No one with healthy self-esteem would be rude or condescending for no reason. You look SOOOO ridiculous when you act that way and everyone can see through your inflated ego. We all know it’s a charade, so just stop. We are all equal in God’s eyes. If God thinks we are all the same, who are we to act differently?
4. Have empathy and compassion toward others.
The world does not revolve only around you and your problems. Read a book, get to know current events, and look outside your bubble. If you show empathy towards others and genuinely care about other peoples’ plights, you feel and know that you are not alone. When you realize that fact, you understand everyone is worth something (including you). If you show a genuine interest in others, chances are, others will show a genuine interest in you.
5. Have fearless and unwavering support for your heart and your values.
NEVERRRRR compromise your values. If you do, you will feel like you know what. This can also make you feel like you’ve been walked all over because you allowed yourself to be someone you feel you’re not. My favorite bible verse is:
“Above all else, you must guard and protect your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”
-Proverbs 3:23 NIV
Hurt people hurt people. Look out for yourself. Be kind to yourself. Most importantly, stay true to yourself.
So. there you have it. I hope these tips help you to build self-esteem and feel better in every way. If you already have high self-esteem, I hope this was just a quick and friendly reminder that you’re a STAR. Until next time!